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I told my husband that I’m never going to kneel and apologise to that girl. I asked him what’s wrong with him, that if he was ok.
He said that, I’m trying to see his reactions, that I will soon see what he is capable off. It then, beckoned on me that, this girl means a lot to him, that I have been wasting my time, believing that, he will change and become a better husband one day. From the message in his eyes, I’ve lost him completely.
So I called him by his full name and asked him why he was treating me as if I was nobody.
I asked him if I’ve ever given him reasons to regret marrying me, but he didn’t say a word.
His threat really hurt my heart that I got fed up with him at that instant.
“Hope you said that, if I did not apologize to her, that I won’t see you again, right? Then no problem. I won’t apologize. I even made mistake by even talking to her on the phone. You see this marriage, I’m done. I can’t endure you anymore. Do you know that, I rush to the hospital almost every time we make love just to check myself, to see whether you have infected me with one infection or the other, so that I will start treating myself on time. Do you think it has been easy living with a chronic cheat like you? Seriously, I can’t continue living like this. This is not the life I wish for myself. I am done. Go ahead with your girl, because I don’t care anymore. In fact, I’m even divorcing you. I’ve had it with you. You are a disgrace of a husband. You are shameless. I have been humiliated enough. That girl you are sleeping with, is she not old enough to be your daughter? I regretted the day I accepted to marry you”
I really poured out my heart while he stood there, speechless. I have never challenged nor talk to him in such manner before. He couldn’t believe my outburst, but yet, he saw them empty and still insisted I apologize to the girl. That he was giving me till that night to do the needful or else, it will be the end of the marriage.
He still went ahead to threaten me again, thinking I wasn’t serious with quitting the marriage. This time, I didn’t say a word again. He angrily left and still reminded me to apologize to his girl.
I cried my eyes out that day. My husband giving my position to a sidechick. He forgot how we started, how I helped him become who he is today. He forgot all the things we’ve been through and all the things we achieved together. He forgot the memories we built together, he forgot everything all because of a girl who I believe, is only interested in his money.
When I was saying those things, my intentions was to get him to his senses, to see if he would ask me not to leave, that he was sorry, but nothing of such happened. He still believed that, my life is stuck with him, that I’m not going to ever think of leaving him. Maybe, because of the way I have been turning a blind eye to his outrageous cheating life, he then took it that, I can never leave him, because no woman would see her husband cheating and keep quiet like that.
But this time, he is wrong. I am leaving for good. He might as well bring in his girl, because I’m fed up.
So I got my things, and that of my 2 kids and we left.
I have my own business and capable of taking care of myself and cater for all my children’s needs. I enjoy peace of mind more than anything. So leaving him sounded a good idea. My sister was against me leaving, that I should stay back and fight for my marriage, but I said, no. That I’m done with him.
I believe he will be shocked to his bones to meet our absence in the house. He couldn’t believe that, I could fathom the courage to walk away. It sounded like a dream to him.
About 12am, my phone started ringing. I checked and it was him, so I ignored it, because I really wanted to have a good night sleep. I don’t want him to soil my peaceful moment with his negative energy.
He kept calling, so I switched the phone to silent, so that I don’t get to hear it ringing.
He continued calling, because my phone never stopped beaming light. So I slept off, without answering his calls.
When I woke up in the morning, I checked my phone and found out that, it was already flat. So I had to charge it. When I turned it on, my dear, it was 80 missed calls, 5 messages. I don’t think he slept at all.
He was begging me in the messages, to come back, that he didn’t know what took over him and made him react the way he did. That I’m his life and can’t stand loosing me. He also asked me where we were, so he can come there and beg me. That he needs his wife in his life and can’t see himself going forward without her by his side.
But seriously, I’m never returning to him, I don’t want to continue living the life of rushing to the hospital every time to have myself checked for any infection or diseases. I don’t want to stand the humiliation of sharing my husband with a small girl in the street.
I told him that, we are never coming back to that house, that he can as well bring in his side chick, marry her and have her treat her the way I did.
My awesome happiness is that, I treated him with respect, love and care. I never hesitated in exercising my wifely duties, so I believe that, no woman will ever treat him like I did. He is going to regret ever making me go through shame. He is going to continue regretting ever disregarding me as his wife.
He kept calling, so I had to bar his life. He went to the village to meet my people, to ask me to come back. Everybody was calling me, but I told them categorically, that it’s over. I can’t go back. I already have 2 wonderful kids, I don’t think I still have reasons for a man in my life again. Peace of mind is golden to me, and I cherish it more than anything.
Thanks for reading my story. I want everyone woman to build herself, have something tangible doing so that, you don’t depend on anyone. If I had been this wife who doesn’t have anything she is doing, I would have still remain under him, eating his shit.
According to my sister, he is no longer himself. The several times he came to the house, he was looking tattered and stressed. That he can’t stop regretting himself and wishes to have me back. Everybody in the house is against me leaving him, that I should go back to my husband’s house. But I told them, never.
We lodged in a guest house. I’m still waiting for my house agent to find a good and comfortable apartment for me.
This is the end of my story
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