My husband insist I kneel and apologize to his sidechick or this happens
Before getting married, I have always known that, all men are the same and that cheating is a natural thing to them.
So I conditioned my mind not to get affected if eventually my husband turns to be one of them.
And just like I predicted, he joined the league.
I accepted my fate and allowed it not to affect my peace of my mind. At a point, I started wondering if I truly love my husband, that I should be mad with jealousy that he is cheating on me, but still, I still see myself not giving a FK about it. He can live his life the way he wants, provided it doesn’t affect our marriage.
I cherish peace of mind more than any thing.
Even my sister knows about his cheating escapades, and even the girl he is going out with.
And the ugly thing is that, this said girl is living in the next street.
You can imagine the level of insult and disrespect.
Many concerned neighbours have given me several advise on how to disgrace the girl, so that she won’t near my husband ever again, but I still turned a blind eye.
And you can imagine his audacity. When my second child had his 1st birthday, this my husband had the effrontery to invite this girl to the party and even gave her a special treatment. Everybody wanted me to react, even my sister almost bursted, but what did I do? I pretended like I saw nothing, so that peace will continue reigning in my home.
This my husband was taking my silence to mean weakness and stupidity.
My sister who couldn’t stand the sight of the girl angrily left the party.
In my home, I share bills with my husband. He takes care of house rent, children’s school fees and other expenses, while I take care of electricity bills and feeding.
I never slack in my own responsibilities. We have never run out of food in the house and likewise electricity. I take care of it, even before the unit runs out.
But recently, it’s becoming a different case for my husband.
He is now owing house rent. Our rent was due last 4 months and this man kept complaining that, he doesn’t have money to pay.
And since I hate disgrace and insult, I decided to pay with my own money, demanding he refund me once he gets the money.
He agreed, but I’m sure I won’t be seeing that money again. My mind told me that, he intentionally left it for me to take care of it. He almost did the same thing with the children’s school fees, but I strongly maintained my ground that I don’t have money, that he shouldn’t allow the children to be disgraced and sent out of school. So he later paid the fees.
This man is not having any challenges in his business, so what’s happening with his money? Where are they going to? What or who is he spending it on?
He comes home late every night and sometimes, he won’t return at all. Some times, he will spend like 3 to 5 days before finally coming home.
I don’t disturb him as a wife. I don’t encroach on his peace of mind. I don’t nag on any little issue. I also don’t deny him myself. I always give it to him anytime he request it, provided I’m not in my period. But, he is still not contented with me.
He hasn’t complained on anything regarding my wifely duties, I make sure my husband doesn’t lack anything that would make him go outside, but yet, he is still not satisfied. He went outside and started cheating on me with a girl who is old enough to be my first daughter.
When his excesses was becoming too much, I decided that it’s time I act, so that, he doesn’t think that I’m “OK’ with his lifestyle.
Just last week, this girl was gifted a Corolla car on her birthday, but didn’t mention who bought it for her. I know my husband was the one who got it for her. That’s what he was saving up for and decided not to pay the rent.
So, I informed my sister of my intentions to take actions on this girl, that I was getting fed up with keeping silence and turning a blind eye.
So my sister bought the idea immediately and eager to take actions.
We went to her school and disgraced her in front of everyone.
I didn’t know if that was the good thing to do, but my anger clouded my eyes. My intention was for her to stay away from my husband. Her involvement in his life was becoming a disturbance in my marriage.
I saw the shame that displayed on her face. Everybody was taking videos, capturing the monent as my sister continued venting her anger on her. She said a lot to her, to the hearing of everyone, exposing what she was doing with my husband. And when she tried to tear her down by stripping her, then I knew it was time to stop.
I went to my sister and dragged her out, asking that, it was enough, that we should leave.
She still insisted that, she wasn’t done with the girl, but I maintained we leave the place.
So we left. But my conscience kept bothering me on whether we did the right thing or not. On whether, I took the right approach.
But the real drama began after my husband rushed home.
It was about 3pm. He left his work and rushed home to charge at me on why I insulted his girl. He also descended on me with a heavy slap. He hit me for the first time just because of the girl and requested that I call the girl on phone and apologise to her for what I did to her.
This was like a blow to my heart. That I should call the girl, who is old enough to be my daughter and apologise to her. I regretted not allowing my sister to disgrace her further.
He insisted that I apologise to the girl or it will be the end of our marriage.
See what my life has become. My husband is threatening me with a divorce just because of his sidechick.
I started fighting with my heart on whether to do it or not.
Then I remembered my kids. I don’t want them to grow without their father in every step of their lives. Then I said “ok” and accepted to call the girl just for peace to reign.
So he handed me his phone which already had the girl’s number ringing.
When she answered, I began telling her that I was sorry.
And this girl said that, I’m very stupid, that she will deal with me. That if I truly want her to forgive me, that I should come to her department, in the presence of everyone, kneel in front of her and apologise.
This is a slap on my personality. I just laughed at her audacity. I didn’t reply her and handed the phone back to my husband.
My husband accepted what she said and insisted I do it or else, I won’t see him again. That it will be the end of our marriage.
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